The best thing about having a blog is receiving emails almost everyday, from different set of people, ages and race. But I don't get that many though. 4 average and 10 max and half of them say that i WON a million dollars on a UK lotto. Barf! I suppose that's the whole point of having a blog, to connect to people. They ask you about almost anything and everything. Most of the time i get my inspiration from them. So am warning you, this post is a bit cheesy. So please bear with me. hihihi. Having said so, a few weeks ago i received an email from a girl, and she's about to get married in 4 months time. In short she's asking for my advice and tips for building a good marriage. Well she's 20 years young. Yeah that young. I was a little surprised cos i am no expert to give out such advice, having failed in so many relationships in the past. Well come to think of it. Thank God they all failed, or am having a husband now and four other boyfriends simultaneously right? There's goodness in failure after all. hihihi.
Anyway going back, am really flattered, cos husband and I were only married for 18 months now. So It's extremely short time compared to those who are married for years and years. But I answered as best as i could, based on our four years together.
Well, like any other couple, we did not agree on everything, of course. But we never really argued. And ,I thank God, I just got lucky. I don't ever remember once sitting down and mapping out a blueprint. It just became "we", instead of "I" very naturally and easily. And you live as you never have before, despite problems, separations, and conflicts. I suppose mainly you have to be willing to want to give.
It's not always 50-50. Sometimes one partner gives 80%. But then sometimes the other one does, so it all evens out after all. It's not always easy. I think it boils down to being willing to try to understand, to give of yourself, to be supportive. And above all else you must be sure that the person you're about to marry, is the only one you would want to spend the rest of your forever and ever and ever with. Wooooohoohooo. Did that scare you? hihihii.
And of course L O V E. Married or not, when two people really love each other, they help each other stay alive and grow beautifully together. I can't remember what my life was like before, and I can't imagine not being with Jayson.
So i wish you good, happy life ahead. And if all else fail, please don't sue me. hihihhi.
Have a wonderful day everyone and thank you all for reading.
romper: Oxygen
Jacket: Thrift
shoes: Mendrez
necklaces: Quiapo
bag: thrift
Earrings: Mags
Ring: from mom
Well, like any other couple, we did not agree on everything, of course. But we never really argued. And ,I thank God, I just got lucky. I don't ever remember once sitting down and mapping out a blueprint. It just became "we", instead of "I" very naturally and easily. And you live as you never have before, despite problems, separations, and conflicts. I suppose mainly you have to be willing to want to give.
It's not always 50-50. Sometimes one partner gives 80%. But then sometimes the other one does, so it all evens out after all. It's not always easy. I think it boils down to being willing to try to understand, to give of yourself, to be supportive. And above all else you must be sure that the person you're about to marry, is the only one you would want to spend the rest of your forever and ever and ever with. Wooooohoohooo. Did that scare you? hihihii.
And of course L O V E. Married or not, when two people really love each other, they help each other stay alive and grow beautifully together. I can't remember what my life was like before, and I can't imagine not being with Jayson.
So i wish you good, happy life ahead. And if all else fail, please don't sue me. hihihhi.
Have a wonderful day everyone and thank you all for reading.
romper: Oxygen
Jacket: Thrift
shoes: Mendrez
necklaces: Quiapo
bag: thrift
Earrings: Mags
Ring: from mom
54 comments:
What a lovely post!!
love is in the air. pg ako mgpapakasal i'll ask advice din from you 'coz i can see that you have a happy and fun marriage. you look so in love and contented.=)cheers!
lovely outfit!:D
i love the bag!!!ganda!
Nice post !
Jing Ayuban's right : you look so happy with your husband ! You seem to make a very good mariage !
And it's so right to write that living in couple is about love, but sharing and being supportive. All is not white or black... but often grey...
The more important thing is to be happy with your soul mate.
What an incredible wise post from someone so young.;)You have the mind and the views of an experienced woman.;)
Lovely pictures as always.;)
xo
This is a lovely happy post thanks for sharing :)
great photos
shoes<3
love your printed jacket with the yellow strap sandals !! very bright outfit !
Marriage is something that I am truly excited about, but it is not one of my priorities right now. I love looking at happy couples and it makes me happier when I see Lolo and Lola going out on a date. Haaaay! Someday. Hahahaha! :D
I am so happy for you, and I wish you and your family more happiness and love. ;)
And before I forget, I really love your outfits. A really goooooood photographer doesn't hurt, too! *wink wink. Haaahaa! :D
Have a great night, Denise! ;)
Someday, I wish to have the contentment and happiness you radiate. And it shows through your blog your joie vivre for life and i am so joyful for you. That's why I'm hooked on your blog too!
cheers,
cherie
Your pictures are always so pretty. I like your outfit, esp your bag. It's really nice. And you're wearing the detailed jacket I really like.
Wow, great pictures!!
i love your outfit!
and that's sweet of you, I'm really dissapointed in marrige overall, because even being so young, i've seen them fail so so much. But you wrote about it so beautifully, I enjoyd it! thank you!
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katrina
Such a cute post, Adorable pictures.
great outfit darling!
Meho xx
Hi Denise,
You look so pretty lying on the grass!
And what a great post this is! Especially you sharing about love and your marriage:) I'm really looking forward to marrying my sweetheart in 2 years time lol!
xx,
Sher
Very good advice I think, I felt that way about my husband before we got married, it just felt natural!
I love your necklace!
awww... i'm so touched by what you said about marriage. i'm also contemplating about it. thanks for the great advice!
and btw, cute outfit! love the shoes!!!
Hey Denise! Thanks for your sweet comment on my post! ;-)
Wow! What beautiful words you wrote in this post.
It's crazy when you do find the one and you don't have to sit down and map out a blueprint. It naturally becomes "we" instead of "I". I, myself, could not imagine my life without my hubby either. ;-)
xoxo, Shelly
i love this post :) The background in you pictures are always amazing. I love the nature:) Great outfit :)
Omg that is hilarious. I thought I was the only one receiving these million dollar winnings notifications. lol The worse is some foreigner who needs to transfer money into your account hahaa
Love your Jacket and your sense of style is refreshing.
Denise, what great advice. I agree that relationships are not always 50-50 nor should they be! If you can't rely on your partner or your partner can't rely on you then you may as well be alone, I think.
Another good piece of advice is to remember you're in it for the long haul and you have to speak your mind to make things better, don't let negative thoughts manifest or you'll start resenting your partner!
I love that jacket too miss :)
So,I'm not the only winner here:))
Great post sweetie:)
love your jacket!
Love this jacket!!
love the jacket and the little pop of color with the yellow sandal
gorgeous!
thanks for sharing darling, love the blog!
and thanks for the sweet comments!
-cma
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trift bag? AWESOME!
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Well said, Denise.
It's so refreshing to see couples like you who radiate all the posistive vibes.
Cheers!
aww you are so lucky! and so you look in the pics! wonderful;)i admire your romper. and your jayson is a wonderful photographer. i just met a wonderful guy called jayson too :D
i super love the jacket denise! stay happy :)
sweet bag-i like it
That is such a lovely post.
I love the pics...it looks so nice there.
So romantic!! I think having a relationship is hard and we all struggle but love is a beautiful thing to treasure forever! I love your jacket! Your pictures always make me smile! xoxoxxo
love love your jacket alot!
the picture looks great
Love your sandals :)
i love ur jacket! cute print. and the yellow shoes is an interesting choice. looks fresh!
i wish i could say something about "love" kaso walang ako alam! haha.
love, kisses and such! ^^
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Love it! Sounds like you give sound advice, but you failed to mention being a beauty like you!! Love your pictures! C
adooorable outfit!! i especially love your necklace!
xx
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lovessss the yellow shoes! great outfit:)
xx raez
Such stunning photos! I love your jacket so much!
the bag looks new and you look great as always
Hey darling. lol. Thanks for sharing this to the world. You're the person here in the blog sphere I feel close too, though afar i know you're a nice girl to talk too. You always return my emails with fun stories and experiences like a big sister i never had. My special day is coming. I am very excited. My blog is coming up soon.
you're always cute and refreshing. You're so happy to look at.
-chasie
i love your jacket!
Great look, really nice blazer!
Nice blog! <3
Aww your so sweet doing this post. Very sweet words. I cant imagine and cant remember being without my bf :)
I love the setting of these photos, and you look gorgeous as usual.
Rose
that was great advice.
you really have the greatest shoes ever!
oh i really agree with you. somehow over the last year, his place became our place and there were more we than I..... btw, i adore your printed jacket.
I am so in love wit that jacket! The sandals too <3
How awesome, Denise!
Love your jacket! haaayyy ako din they always tell me na I won 1 million pounds.. really annoying.. meron pa ko 1 million from western union from Nigeria pa daw! oh well..
So true about what you said! To add, learn to accept your partner for what he is and don't forget to say sorry when you're at fault. Yun lang pow.hihi! :)
PS: Love your jacket! ;)
Thanks for droppin by my blog Denise :) with all the blogs you visit from time to time..I appreciate it alot..
Wow she's my age & already getting married?..wow..I wish her a blessed marriage to come :)
I totally agree with your view on marriage. Its different for couples, I mean there isn't any two alike, there's always a special spark in a couple that sets them apart from others. :) Like you & your husband. The closeness you two share can be seen so vividly in your pics. Ganda kase ang smile, halatang sino nagpapasmile sayo eh :)
Gorgeous!!
oh wow i love your taste in fashion :)..what camera are you using btw
waaa same here i got bunch of mails almost everyday that I WON a million dollars.. hahaha
awesome jacket and yuck i hate those stupid lottery spam emails
You look beautiful, Denise!!!
And everything you said about marriage is right. It's all about "we" and "us" - we can't be selfish anymore :) And it's not always 50/50 like you said, sometimes 60/40 or even 51/49 - but that's what compromise is, right? And in the end happiness is about the other person's happiness too. Like with everything else, you have to work at it to make it great. It's not always perfect, but it's accepting and even loving the times when it's imperfect.
All the best to you and Jayson!
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